But you and I both know it's not that simple. If it were, millions of parents wouldn't be having this same exhausting struggle every single day.
Taking the phone is easy. Living with what comes after? That's the hard part. The arguments. The negotiation marathons. The sneaking. The growing distance between you and your child.
This book isn't about winning the screen time battle. It's about ending the war. For good.
Is This Your House?
Maybe it's not a daily crisis. But these moments sound familiar:
"Just five more minutes" turns into an hour. Again.
They're on the tablet instead of doing homework. You remind them. They grunt. Nothing changes.
You worry: are they missing out on real life? Are other kids more balanced? Are you doing enough?
Some days you have energy to enforce rules. Other days you're too tired to fight, so you let it slide. Then feel guilty.
You love your child fiercely. You also sometimes fantasize about throwing all devices out the window.
If any of this resonates, you're not alone. And you're not failing.
You're trying to parent in a world where billion-dollar companies compete for your child's attention. The game is rigged. But there's another way to play.
"Just five more minutes" turns into an hour. Again.
They're on the tablet instead of doing homework. You remind them. They grunt. Nothing changes.
You worry: are they missing out on real life? Are other kids more balanced? Are you doing enough?
Some days you have energy to enforce rules. Other days you're too tired to fight, so you let it slide. Then feel guilty.
You love your child fiercely. You also sometimes fantasize about throwing all devices out the window.
If any of this resonates, you're not alone. And you're not failing.
You're trying to parent in a world where billion-dollar companies compete for your child's attention. The game is rigged. But there's another way to play.
There's Another Way
This book takes a completely different approach. One based on proven behavioral science, not wishful thinking.
Instead of fighting screens, we'll understand what your child is really looking for when they reach for that device. Instead of endless battles, you'll learn to set boundaries that stick - without becoming the bad guy.
Most importantly, you'll learn to take care of yourself first. Because you can't give what you don't have.
Instead of fighting screens, we'll understand what your child is really looking for when they reach for that device. Instead of endless battles, you'll learn to set boundaries that stick - without becoming the bad guy.
Most importantly, you'll learn to take care of yourself first. Because you can't give what you don't have.
Why This Book Is Different
Most parenting books about screens tell you what to do. This one shows you how to change the system.
The approach combines methods used to help families of people with addictions (where you learn to support change without enabling) with evidence-based parenting techniques. It's not about being stricter or more permissive. It's about understanding what drives your child's behavior and responding differently.
This isn't one person's opinion. Every technique in this book is backed by research. Every example is something that actually works when you're exhausted and out of options.
The approach combines methods used to help families of people with addictions (where you learn to support change without enabling) with evidence-based parenting techniques. It's not about being stricter or more permissive. It's about understanding what drives your child's behavior and responding differently.
This isn't one person's opinion. Every technique in this book is backed by research. Every example is something that actually works when you're exhausted and out of options.
What You'll Find Inside:
The Parent's Compass
AI Is Already Here
From Enabling to Empowering
Your Oxygen Mask First
Your emotions are data. When you feel rage, your child needs control. When you feel irritated, they need attention. This simple framework changes everything about how you respond.
As if learning how parental controls work wasn't enough, now we need to understand artificial intelligence. ChatGPT, Claude, Gemini, Mistral, DeepSeek - which of these is your child already using? (Spoiler: probably more than one.)
How to stop accidentally reinforcing the behavior you're trying to change. Let natural consequences do the teaching while you preserve your relationship.
Getting Other Adults On Board
Building Long-Term Skills
Because it's not just you and your kid. It's grandma sneaking extra screen time, your ex with different rules, the babysitter who caves. How to create consistency without starting World War III in your extended family.
You're not just managing today's screen time. You're raising someone who can handle technology as an adult. Every interaction is building their future relationship with devices.
Why caring for yourself isn't selfish - it's strategic. Plus, actual techniques that work when you have zero energy left. No spa days required.
What Parents Are Saying
Who This Book Is For
You're in the right place if:
- You have a child between 7-12 years old
- You've tried apps, timers, and rules but nothing sticks long-term
- You're tired of being the screen police
- You want less conflict and more connection
- You believe there must be a better way than constant battles
- You're ready for solutions based on behavioral science, not opinions
This book works whether you're:
- Already exhausted from daily screen battles
- Just starting to notice concerning patterns
- Looking for preventive strategies before problems start
- Simply curious about what actually works
Why This Approach Works
This isn't another parenting philosophy. It's an adaptation of evidence-based tools from cognitive behavioral therapy and decades of research on child development.
The same techniques that help adults change entrenched behaviors work for family dynamics too. We've just translated them into practical steps any parent can use.
No shame. No judgment. No perfection required. Just tools that work in real families with real kids.
The same techniques that help adults change entrenched behaviors work for family dynamics too. We've just translated them into practical steps any parent can use.
No shame. No judgment. No perfection required. Just tools that work in real families with real kids.
Nadezhda Borzunova
Meet The Author
I facilitate science-based recovery groups, helping people change entrenched behaviors using CBT and proven tools.
While working in this field, I noticed a striking pattern: the power struggles parents face over screen time mirror the psychological cycles of dependency. The guilt, the negotiation, the relapses — it’s the same mechanism.
I wrote this book to bring those professional, evidence-based tools into the family living room. This is a systemic approach to breaking the dopamine loop without breaking the relationship with your child.
I facilitate science-based recovery groups, helping people change entrenched behaviors using CBT and proven tools.
While working in this field, I noticed a striking pattern: the power struggles parents face over screen time mirror the psychological cycles of dependency. The guilt, the negotiation, the relapses — it’s the same mechanism.
I wrote this book to bring those professional, evidence-based tools into the family living room. This is a systemic approach to breaking the dopamine loop without breaking the relationship with your child.
What Makes This Different
Most screen time advice falls into two camps:
The hardliners say
"Just be stricter! Take control!"
(Which creates rebellion and resentment)
"Just be stricter! Take control!"
(Which creates rebellion and resentment)
The tech enthusiasts say
"Kids need their devices for the modern world!"
(Which leaves you feeling helpless)
"Kids need their devices for the modern world!"
(Which leaves you feeling helpless)
This book offers a third way:
One where you stop trying to control what you can't control (every click, every minute) and start influencing what you can (the family environment, your own responses, the alternatives you offer).
One where taking care of yourself isn't selfish - it's the foundation of everything else.
One where your child learns to manage technology not through force, but through experiencing natural consequences and discovering better ways to meet their needs.
One where you stop trying to control what you can't control (every click, every minute) and start influencing what you can (the family environment, your own responses, the alternatives you offer).
One where taking care of yourself isn't selfish - it's the foundation of everything else.
One where your child learns to manage technology not through force, but through experiencing natural consequences and discovering better ways to meet their needs.
You Don't Have to Be Perfect
Inside, you'll learn why your "failures" might actually be successes in disguise. Why backing off sometimes works better than pushing harder. Why your guilt is lying to you about what your child really needs.
This book gives you permission to:
This book gives you permission to:
- Set boundaries without being the bad guy
- Take breaks without guilt
- Let natural consequences teach the lessons
- Focus on progress, not perfection
- Trust that small changes compound over time
Ready to End the Screen Wars?
Inside you'll find:
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5 comprehensive modules that build on each other
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The science behind why kids get hooked (and why that's not your fault)
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Practical tools you can use today, even if you're exhausted
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Scripts for common situations (including when you're too tired to think)
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A framework for creating family tech agreements that actually stick
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Troubleshooting guides for when things go sideways
Plus the deeper work:
- How to stop enabling behaviors that keep the problem going
- Ways to meet your child's real needs so they don't need to escape into screens
- Building the skills they'll need to manage technology as adults
It's about finding what works for YOUR family.
Note: This book focuses on elementary and middle school-aged children (7-12 years). While many principles apply broadly, the specific strategies are tailored for this developmental stage.
What you get:
This isn't about perfect parenting
- The Book (PDF + ePUB)
- Bonus: Survival Kit
Get instant access and start changing your family dynamic today.
Not with another app or stricter rules. But with understanding, boundaries that make sense, and a path to peace.
Still Skeptical? Good. You Should Be.
Look, you've probably tried enough things that didn't work.
That's why these first two chapters are free. No catch.
Read them. Try the techniques. See if this approach resonates with your family.
When you're ready for the complete transformation - the action guide, safety protocols, and long-term strategies - the full book is waiting.
Download the Survival Kit for parents and free preview now. The screen wars can end today.
5 Actionable Cheat Sheets (Scripts, Compass, Tracker and more)
First 2 Chapters of the book (PDF and ePUB)
No catch. Just tools that work.
First 2 Chapters of the book (PDF and ePUB)
No catch. Just tools that work.
